Divorce: Proving Feminine Strength

An Article in "The Independant," a British publication, reported in July 2005 that men suffer most during a divorce. The man is the more likely of the pair to become stressed and depressed, while the woman is generally ready to move on and start from scratch. Women, the "weaker sex," tend to feel happier and liberated after a divorce, with 53% of recently divorced women reporting that they felt relieved, refreshed and renewed. Maybe that´s because marriages are so rarely 50/50. Even though equality of the sexes is slowly but surely making its way into the personal sphere, women are still the primary caregivers to both husband and children. Cooking, cleaning and raising the kids is still very much a woman´s job, and let´s face it, one less person to cook and clean for and support emotionally is always a relief.

A man is also twice as likely to commit suicide after a divorce. Seven out of every ten men studied contemplated committing suicide.

Men, also have trouble letting go, with 25% of the men studied admitting that thier mood has not improved with the passage of time. However, 80% of women say that after a couple of years, they no longer feel betrayed.

After a divorce women turn to their friends and family for support, spending the majority of their time with them, while men rely on ex-girlfriends, casual sex and dating agencies to get them through the rough spot.

Men rely on women (particularly mothers and wives) for just about everything. They need women to care for them, support them emotionally, make them feel good about themselves. It makes you wonder why every damn society on the planet treats women as inferior when it´s quite obvious that men depend on us for their own well being. I suppose they assume that if they keep us feeling like we need them or like we owe them something, we´ll never leave, which is ultimately what they need and want. It´s easier to keep someone by making them think it´s in their best interest than by admitting your own weaknesses and having to give, not just take. I think Virginia Woolf said the same thing in A room of One´s Own only a little more eloquently.


Source: Qué!, Madrid, Spain, July 5, 2005